Let’s be contented!

I feel rather uncomfortable putting this out there but I’m trusting you to be gentle with me!

You see I don’t have ‘grand’ or ‘noble’ goals and dreams.  I don’t have a ‘big’ story.  For some time now this has felt like a problem for me as all Life Coaches I’ve come across seem to have these wonderfully huge goals that they are either working towards or have achieved.  Quite frankly I’ve found it rather intimidating.

So when I found myself heading off to be in the company of a hundred or so coaches I was feeling VERY insignificant.  Over the weekend I found myself being amazed by their inspiring stories, by all they have achieved or overcome and I felt myself feeling compelled to compete.  Surely I should.

After the weekend I shared what I’d been feeling with Mike telling him that I felt myself to have had a very ordinary background and story.  That I didn’t feel the need to be up on stage, to be famous or to create some massive impact in the world.

This was the time that he very kindly pointed out to me that this might be the case for my c lients as well.  You know what he’s right as well.  Not everyone needs to have huge earth shattering dreams.  It’s all well and good if you have (and I’d love to help you make them come true) but equally there’s nothing wrong with ‘just’ wanting to be happy, to enjoy your life and feel contented.  You know what, that sounds really good to me.

So please don’t be intimidated by all those who are making a lot of noise about trying to change the world.  Let’s be contented!

About Clare Wildman

Life coaching from Lincolnshire. Having moved from Milton Keynes I'm now based between Boston and New York, in the UK. Looking forward to welcoming clients to the new coaching room and having the option for walking as we talk or taking advantage of sunny days in the garden.


  1. Jenny on 12th November 2014 at 2:49 pm

    I think you make a very good point here. Lots of us don’t have impressive stories and our dreams may be modest but when we get closer to fulfilling our dreams they will necessarily have to change and perhaps become bigger.
    What were your dreams five years ago? I’m sure some of them have already come true!

    • Clare on 14th November 2014 at 6:05 pm

      How true Jenny. At one point my dream was to be self employed and now look at me 😉