This was originally written for my local magazine Bletchley Buzz. It’s a topic that comes up regularly with many finding it harder to love themselves than to love and care for others. So with thanks to Bletchley Buzz I’m replicating it here, with a few tweaks, for those who aren’t lucky enough to get a copy of the magazine.
As we move into February our thoughts turn to love and romance. From finding a partner for live to appreciating our soul mate. However, as Whitney Houston used to sing to us, the greatest love of all is loving ourselves.
It never ceases to amaze me how much harder we can be on ourselves than on those around us. I often hear people beating themselves up and yet if someone else had done/not done/said/not said the exact same thing they would think nothing of it.
This February why not start a new tradition for Valentine’s Day and make it love yourself day. If you were to show appreciation and love for yourself just how would you want to do it? Take some time to think about it, what would make you feel truly loved and cared for?
- Your favourite meal
- A glass of bubbly
- A long hot soak in a candlelight bath
- A bunch of flowers
- An evening curled up with a book
- Watching your favourite film
- Listening to music
- A pampering session
- Booking a holiday
- Switching off the phone, computer etc
Whatever feels right for you, do it!
If you don’t feel the love for yourself right now then a great way to build it is to make a ME book. Use it to record all the things about yourself that are good (these are the bits we often forget) and refer to it whenever you are feeling unsure, unloved or low in self esteem. It might include some of the following:
- Your good qualities
- Compliments you have received
- Things you have done
- Things you are proud of
- People you love
- Plans for your future
Make sure you only record the things you feel are good here. Then use it for an instant boost as and when needed. Try to remember to add to it, especially to include compliments and nice things people have said about you as these are the things we forget the quickest.
Happy Valentine’s Day You!