Developing Me

After more than 10 years working as a life coach I’ve come across all sorts of developmental techniques and tools.  So many ‘ways to be’ and loads of self-development gurus.  All these influences have been interesting and there’s always something new to learn.

What I have noticed, since day one, is that most (if not all) focus on ‘you want to ……… so you need to……’ and here I feel is the difficulty.  You see most of us don’t know how to fill that first gap.  We don’t know who or how we want to be and modern life leads us to look instead to the ‘what we want to have’ and, let’s face it, that is so much easier!

I don’t have the answers and even if I had them for me they probably wouldn’t be your answers.  Let’s be clear I have absolutely no intention of adding to the thousands of gurus out there who are telling you how to be.  Instead I’m very passionate about building and celebrating our own uniqueness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean standing out from the crowd different.  We are all very slightly different from each other but also share many traits.  I’m all for accepting both the differences and the similarities as we decide the changes that we would like to make in our lives.

I’ve decided to under-go my own journey of development this year in a more focussed manner and that is what I’ll be sharing with you.  Maybe that has been brought about by hitting one of those milestone birthdays, maybe it’s a mid-life crisis or maybe it’s just that I’m ready and I don’t need to label it. 

Why I have decided to develop myself?

  • I’ve plateaued in my learning
  • I’ve been feeling discontent
  • The things I’ve been doing haven’t led to the results that I want
  • I want to reassess the whole picture of how I see myself and who I am

Why share?

Not because I want the publicity that’s for sure.  This is not likely to be a pretty picture.  I’m expecting it to be a painful journey at times.  What has driven me to put my fingers to the keyboard is the hope that sharing truthfully without all the rah rah and the perfectionism that it can in some way help to inspire and to share that if you are not finding it easy then you are not alone.  We all know this deep down but some days when we look around it feels that everyone has it sussed and is cracking on and making things happen and that we are all alone on our painful journey.

I’ll be telling you more soon about the scope of my development and how I’m making a start but…for now there’s a webinar due to start that I’ve signed up for and I’m going to get myself into learning mode.



About Clare Wildman

YES! I’ve found my purpose in life and it’s to help others to change their life. At some level I’d always known that, I just didn’t know how. Guess how I found out? That’s right I went to a Life Coach and found that coaching was the answer to my own life change and that of others.